Any way not to disclose divorced status during VD/SD?

[Karlman]

I am with my current gf for 3 years. And we are planning to get married by end of this year. The thing is, I did not tell her I was divorced. Because it was such a painful time in my life that I do not wish to talk about it again.

So now comes a time I have to declare Document Verification & Statutory Declaration at ROM soon.

Is there any way I can submit my documents without her knowing?

[cocky1234]

Originally Posted by Karlman

I am with my current gf for 3 years. And we are planning to get married by end of this year. The thing is, I did not tell her I was divorced. Because it was such a painful time in my life that I do not wish to talk about it again.

So now comes a time I have to declare Document Verification & Statutory Declaration at ROM soon.

Is there any way I can submit my documents without her knowing?

Unfortunately no. It is against the law and ROM already have your previous marriage details if you are married in Singapore

[alexis88]

Originally Posted by Karlman

I am with my current gf for 3 years. And we are planning to get married by end of this year. The thing is, I did not tell her I was divorced. Because it was such a painful time in my life that I do not wish to talk about it again.

So now comes a time I have to declare Document Verification & Statutory Declaration at ROM soon.

Is there any way I can submit my documents without her knowing?

Bro, i know its a painful time in your life, but i feel still got a few months to ROM, find a time to sit down and talk about it with her. Else you'll always be haunted about hiding it from her.

Wish you luck

[Karlman]

I know this is a no-brainer question with the answer that I should have known. Hai..

Nevertheless thank you all for the replies.

[ongkp]

Don’t cheat yourself again. You have fail in the first relationship, don’t repeat again.......

[fallen11]

u need to let her know u're divorced before.
no use hiding such things
even if u manage to hide, 1 day it'll still catch up with your new life.
Dont be a wimp
if she cannot accept your divorce, which / if she doesnt has anything to do with it. You're better off not marrying her.
If she's the cause of your divorce, then good luck to u

[BroRelax]

Why need to hide when the relationship was before your current?

Also if she log onto ROM website and inout your particulars, she will be able to find out that you were married before though the website will not state if you are divorced.

[Karlman]

Thank you all the bro’s here for your good advice and intention. I just do not wish to mess up the dynamics of the good relationship we have right now. Sometimes we know what to do, what not to do. But end up not doing the correct thing.

I will think of how to bring it up to her.

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by Karlman

I am with my current gf for 3 years. And we are planning to get married by end of this year. The thing is, I did not tell her I was divorced. Because it was such a painful time in my life that I do not wish to talk about it again.

So now comes a time I have to declare Document Verification & Statutory Declaration at ROM soon.

Is there any way I can submit my documents without her knowing?

If you have to keep a divorce history from her means she is not the right woman for you. Don't repeat the same mistake twice.

[Sodalime]

My heart goes out to you. Wish you all the best

[xxx_OrOcO_xxx]

My two cents worth, is to be honest with her soonest possible, as you are going to enter a new chapter of life with her together. Honesty is the best policy.

Originally Posted by Karlman

I am with my current gf for 3 years. And we are planning to get married by end of this year. The thing is, I did not tell her I was divorced. Because it was such a painful time in my life that I do not wish to talk about it again.

So now comes a time I have to declare Document Verification & Statutory Declaration at ROM soon.

Is there any way I can submit my documents without her knowing?

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by Karlman

I am with my current gf for 3 years. And we are planning to get married by end of this year. The thing is, I did not tell her I was divorced. Because it was such a painful time in my life that I do not wish to talk about it again.

So now comes a time I have to declare Document Verification & Statutory Declaration at ROM soon.

Is there any way I can submit my documents without her knowing?

Excuses. Coming from a woman point of view. You said it's a relationship of 3 years and you cannot find chance to tell her? Why did you hide such a fact from her to begin with? She wasn't given a choice to make an informed decision to choose you as her boyfriend then now you want to deprive her of making a right choice for the kind of man she wants to marry?
Painful you say. It doesn't justify you hiding this fact. And hiding in my opinion is equivalent to having the intentions to not tell the truth.
She is going to marry you and you are still thinking about how to CONTINUE to lie to her and say you'll honor yourself and protect her as her future husband to be?

[kt88_2]

Originally Posted by Ladyrain

Excuses. Coming from a woman point of view. You said it's a relationship of 3 years and you cannot find chance to tell her? Why did you hide such a fact from her to begin with? She wasn't given a choice to make an informed decision to choose you as her boyfriend then now you want to deprive her of making a right choice for the kind of man she wants to marry?
Painful you say. It doesn't justify you hiding this fact. And hiding in my opinion is equivalent to having the intentions to not tell the truth.
She is going to marry you and you are still thinking about how to CONTINUE to lie to her and say you'll honor yourself and protect her as her future husband to be?

The most hateful thing to do is lie.My wife lied to me for 17 yrs now on way to divorce.Fuck waste my time

[hoosdathu]

bro TS jiayou!

better to come clean now than to have to lie and use excuses to bullshit her later.

[BowBow]

Come clean. Paper can never wrap the fire.
Diffuse the time bomb rather than carrying it around without knowing when it would explode.