How do you guys deal with Perimenopause wives??? big headache, no sex no appreciation

[cbkia222]

Hi guys, i want to ask you all a serious question:

For those who are married and have spouses in their 40s, how do u deal with your wives who are going through perimenopause?

For my background, married 10 yrs/ 2 kids / stay landed . Maid to handle all the kids activities.

Wife and I both work ( i'm in regional sales, travel monthly and when i'm in sg, either WFH or just office meetings)

Money is not really an issue at home, but wife has started to act out last year, either being over bearing on my kids ( this sick that sick) and i'm always the problem.

Ohh yes, no more sex ( as usual, tired and shit, been already years) and i have given up initiating intimacy.

For me now, i just doing everything to give my kids the best childhood and life. My wife, i tried doing the " usual textbook stuff", ie date nights, 1 day a week just to her ( i get my maid to settle my kids), but usually end up fighting cos she wants to go home and thinks my maid cannot take care of the kids

She has been boarder line nit picking on my maid on everything ( laundry not done on time, food not up to standard, etc) and i've always been trying to mediate things ( my maid is awesome with my kids and i trust)

We also have support from my parents side since my kids were young ( my parents gladly help out whenever they can )

I thought i was going crazy and it was affecting my heath and workuntil i suddenly read up on perimenopause symptoms and everything matches:

The anxiety on everything, fatigue , moodyness ( also no sex)

Anyway, sex part, thats why i'm here on SBF more often than ever ( from GL lor 18 houses) to recently SNS's girls and also ivanka's/ elite69s euro girls!
Plus i'm spending a lot of other russian escorts.

Its definitely not healthy but somehow its helping my mental health and i'm able to just be a better person at home for my kids. If it helps me think better, work better to do more sales, earn more money for my kids, its worth spending on.

To see appreciation and kindness from these escorts ( yes i know this is boarderline gongtao, i've been gongtaoed previously by thai FLs, need to pay for car insurance back home etc).

i dont know if the rest of my life will be like this, the escorts whom i've spoken to ( i bao-ed a few for overseas trips), said sex is important and they said why stay married if all this is gone. Divorce is out of question now as i've seen what it does to young children.

I believe its just a perimenopause issue but wife denies everything and i'm always the problem. Told her off once that she didnt have to do any shit at home or worry about the kids ( i came from operations and i like to plan out everything smoothly to ensure process if smooth).

There is a limit to how much FLs can bring ( yes cumming inside/ on these Fls are awesome for the moment), but i just need some appreciation

One of my friend's recommended Sugar babes, went to see a few, fucking SG girls think their pussies golden, cheaper to go bring a russian escort to phuket and bang her brains out for 2 days than to support one of these local sugarbabes.

Any of you guys going through the same thing? How do u deal with this?

Thank you in advance

[fallen11]

I believe its just a perimenopause issue but wife denies everything and i'm always the problem. - slowly sit down with her, show her the issue. talk calmly, dont scare her. Let her know its a normal thing and she's not crazy or what. Just need to accept it and manage it. Else everyone around her will be the ones suffering. better yet, bring her to consult a specialist on such women issues (not a mental health doctor! more like a gynecologist).

Manage the hormonal changes / swings. There are some foods she can try to help manage that. Foods rich in magnesium, Vitamin D, etc. Banana, nuts, dark chocolate. Buy for her to eat it daily and monitor her mood. See if it improves.

dont think you marry for sex only. No sex with wife, but u get to fuck young beautiful girls outside somemore with frequent business travel to escape from family haha. Its a very good deal.

anyways, whats the daily rate to book a russian escort to bring overseas?

[cbkia222]

hi bro,

thank you so much for your kind words. Just sucks I can't get any appreciation and love at home.

the sex part i already resign to fate and SBF definitely has kept me happy

would be nice to be hugged and felt loved. haven had that at home for a long time.

for the Russian pussy, I had a 3 day 2 nights trip to phuket( meeting there)

paid for the air tix( cheap) and negotiate to 3.5k for the trip.( I included spa and facial treatments while in phuket, ) plus she had intentions to stay there longer.


The girl was educated, smart, tall, HOT, funny and we had fun fucking everywhere in our villa. we a good time talking to her, her caring for my body both emotionally and physically

we still keep in touch and am waiting for her next trip back to sg

anyone else can share similar situations?

[huayingxiong]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

hi bro,

thank you so much for your kind words. Just sucks I can't get any appreciation and love at home.

the sex part i already resign to fate and SBF definitely has kept me happy

would be nice to be hugged and felt loved. haven had that at home for a long time.

for the Russian pussy, I had a 3 day 2 nights trip to phuket( meeting there)

paid for the air tix( cheap) and negotiate to 3.5k for the trip.( I included spa and facial treatments while in phuket, ) plus she had intentions to stay there longer.


The girl was educated, smart, tall, HOT, funny and we had fun fucking everywhere in our villa. we a good time talking to her, her caring for my body both emotionally and physically

we still keep in touch and am waiting for her next trip back to sg

anyone else can share similar situations?

Experience as in? 😄

What u are going thru, happens to many. Your prob is not unique.

I had read some where, endurance is the only thing to keep u going, to uphold your family. For the good of the family, for the nucleus etc etc.

Don't get me wrong. I for one, had this prob too and in fact it was exactly the opposite of further enduring, that had made me wakes up. Where are the appreciation, where are the respect when we think we had did so much for the family I believe, is what you are thinking beside the no sex thing.

In order to save your marriage and family, probably seek medical consultation or counselling may be the only way, provided if she is agreeable. We aren't able to stop their hormone changes that is leading to the current condition so the only way should be professional help.

As for sex, I believe u are quite clear u are asking for more than satisfaction to your lust. For me, I leave it to fate. What's bound to happen, will happen 😁

[cbkia222]

alright thanks

Given up trying to communicate with the wife.

she's ask for communication and when she hears something she doesnt like, she goes off.

she only wants to hear what she wants to hear.. so yeah..

went off on a doctor who told her she was ok ( thought she had some health issues, did blood test and all) , and it was a consultant.

bobian..

[KennyBee]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Hi guys, i want to ask you all a serious question:

For those who are married and have spouses in their 40s, how do u deal with your wives who are going through perimenopause?

For my background, married 10 yrs/ 2 kids / stay landed . Maid to handle all the kids activities.

Wife and I both work ( i'm in regional sales, travel monthly and when i'm in sg, either WFH or just office meetings)

Money is not really an issue at home, but wife has started to act out last year, either being over bearing on my kids ( this sick that sick) and i'm always the problem.

Ohh yes, no more sex ( as usual, tired and shit, been already years) and i have given up initiating intimacy.

For me now, i just doing everything to give my kids the best childhood and life. My wife, i tried doing the " usual textbook stuff", ie date nights, 1 day a week just to her ( i get my maid to settle my kids), but usually end up fighting cos she wants to go home and thinks my maid cannot take care of the kids

She has been boarder line nit picking on my maid on everything ( laundry not done on time, food not up to standard, etc) and i've always been trying to mediate things ( my maid is awesome with my kids and i trust)

We also have support from my parents side since my kids were young ( my parents gladly help out whenever they can )

I thought i was going crazy and it was affecting my heath and workuntil i suddenly read up on perimenopause symptoms and everything matches:

The anxiety on everything, fatigue , moodyness ( also no sex)

Anyway, sex part, thats why i'm here on SBF more often than ever ( from GL lor 18 houses) to recently SNS's girls and also ivanka's/ elite69s euro girls!
Plus i'm spending a lot of other russian escorts.

Its definitely not healthy but somehow its helping my mental health and i'm able to just be a better person at home for my kids. If it helps me think better, work better to do more sales, earn more money for my kids, its worth spending on.

To see appreciation and kindness from these escorts ( yes i know this is boarderline gongtao, i've been gongtaoed previously by thai FLs, need to pay for car insurance back home etc).

i dont know if the rest of my life will be like this, the escorts whom i've spoken to ( i bao-ed a few for overseas trips), said sex is important and they said why stay married if all this is gone. Divorce is out of question now as i've seen what it does to young children.

I believe its just a perimenopause issue but wife denies everything and i'm always the problem. Told her off once that she didnt have to do any shit at home or worry about the kids ( i came from operations and i like to plan out everything smoothly to ensure process if smooth).

There is a limit to how much FLs can bring ( yes cumming inside/ on these Fls are awesome for the moment), but i just need some appreciation

One of my friend's recommended Sugar babes, went to see a few, fucking SG girls think their pussies golden, cheaper to go bring a russian escort to phuket and bang her brains out for 2 days than to support one of these local sugarbabes.

Any of you guys going through the same thing? How do u deal with this?

Thank you in advance

If I'm as rich as you.. probably I'll experience the same thing as you.

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

alright thanks

Given up trying to communicate with the wife.

she's ask for communication and when she hears something she doesnt like, she goes off.

she only wants to hear what she wants to hear.. so yeah..

went off on a doctor who told her she was ok ( thought she had some health issues, did blood test and all) , and it was a consultant.

bobian..

what doctor did she see? recommend to go see a gynecologist instead. Tell gynecologist that suspect is hormone issue as per what u suspected.
there are also meds that can be taken to control hormonal imbalance issues.

This thing cannot cure but can still be managed and it is a normal & common problem. It is not really a health issue.

[LeManz]

Originally Posted by fallen11

Manage the hormonal changes / swings. There are some foods she can try to help manage that. Foods rich in magnesium, Vitamin D, etc. Banana, nuts, dark chocolate. Buy for her to eat it daily and monitor her mood. See if it improves.

+18 for pointing that out.

Also wanted to add to this, does your wife drink a lot? Does she exercise or hit the gym? Too much alcohol is bad in our later years, our bodies cannot handle it the same way we used to in our younger years. And even light regular exercise can make a huge difference to someone's mental state.

And what about her hobbies and personal interests? Eating healthy is important for the body. We must also keep our minds healthy. Reading, or any activity that engages the mind is important. Heck even playing boardgames with the kids is better than sitting down and watching TV all day long. Or maybe consider adopting a pet, it could be she is bored to death with the way things are and needs something different to keep her mentally stimulated.

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by fallen11

what doctor did she see? recommend to go see a gynecologist instead. Tell gynecologist that suspect is hormone issue as per what u suspected.
there are also meds that can be taken to control hormonal imbalance issues.

This thing cannot cure but can still be managed and it is a normal & common problem. It is not really a health issue.

Hi Bro, Thanks

Her company doctor actually said it was some kind of Lupus ( auto immune) and then she got referred to a specialist ( consultant) that handles these kind of things. did a barrage of blood work, all came out clear. wife nearly ki siao when doctor told her " maybe i recommend you to talk to some one" and stormed out of the room and almost refused to pay for the consultation.

Right now, communication is really bad. but will figure this out.

Thank you bros here for the help . Really appreciate it

[cbkia222]

Originally Posted by LeManz

+18 for pointing that out.

Also wanted to add to this, does your wife drink a lot? Does she exercise or hit the gym? Too much alcohol is bad in our later years, our bodies cannot handle it the same way we used to in our younger years. And even light regular exercise can make a huge difference to someone's mental state.

And what about her hobbies and personal interests? Eating healthy is important for the body. We must also keep our minds healthy. Reading, or any activity that engages the mind is important. Heck even playing boardgames with the kids is better than sitting down and watching TV all day long. Or maybe consider adopting a pet, it could be she is bored to death with the way things are and needs something different to keep her mentally stimulated.

Wife doesnt drink ( doesnt like it) and occassional goes for yoga.

been advised about the excise stuff but she's always " tired" after work.

I was recommended hormome replacement therapy by some overseas friends but told its illegal in Singapore? anyone know?

Thanks all

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by cbkia222

Wife doesnt drink ( doesnt like it) and occassional goes for yoga.

been advised about the excise stuff but she's always " tired" after work.

I was recommended hormome replacement therapy by some overseas friends but told its illegal in Singapore? anyone know?

Thanks all

HRT i think is allowed in sg.

https://www.rafflesmedicalgroup.com/...ement-therapy/